This blog will look at some simple things that wives can do to help bring romance back into their marriage.  I did try to balance this because marriage is a 100% comittment by both husband and wife.  It's not a try and see if this works but we are comitted to make it work and flourish. 

1> Wives Remember Your Responsibility is To Honor Your Husband:

• The number one way to show honor and respect is with your words and not just in what you say but how you say it.  Remember, you can be right in what you say but wrong in how you said it.
• Now men remember when you courted your wife - You preferred her – You honored her – You valued her – You committed your time to her – You treated her like a queen and you behaved like a prince and respect & honor were not an issue. 
• Wives on the same hand – If you call out the prince and the king in your man - If you treat your husband like a king and like a champ - The chances of you ending up with a chump are remote.
• Wives purpose to find the places where your husbands shines like a king or a prince and compliment him in that area and other areas will improve as well –
• Ladies - Your man will always respond to respect and honor.  Call out the prince in your man and he will arise.

I Peter 3:1-4 - Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives - when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.  Do not let your adornment be merely outward - arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel - rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 

2> Wives Create A Safe Place For Him To Lay Down His Head:

• What was Samson looking for with Delilah – He was looking for a Quiet - Safe - Restful – and Peaceful place to lay down his head but he found none.  Question - What did Samson come home to every night? 
• The Bible says - Delilah pestered him daily with her words – She kept pressing him – She never let up on him - She nagged him – She stayed on him to tell her the secret of his great strength.  Finally, after she kept vexing him & tormenting him with her words - Samson folded his mantle of manhood & told her all his heart & his strength left him. 
• Wives if you want your husband to be strong & lead the home & love you as Christ loved the Church - watch your words – The quickest way to weaken a man and cause him to fold and lose his strength is to stay on him. 
• Now men if you will not treat your wife like a thoroughbred racehorse or one of the fellows & walk around the house in your favorite T-Shirt & boxers & will pick up after yourself & will love her & romance & court her – The odds are in your favor she want nag – and you will earn her respect.

3> Wives Remember To Meet Your Husband Physical Needs:

• Men are stimulated by what they see - Women are stimulated by what they hear. Men tend to give love to get sex – Women tend to give sex to get Love. Women crave emotional intimacy in the same way that men crave physical intimacy. Consequently, just as men are vulnerable to unfaithfulness in the absence of sex – women are vulnerable to unfaithfulness in the absence of emotional connection.
• A man can get turned on like a light switch – It’s just how God designed us. The wife on the other hand likes to be romanced – She likes to be courted with candlelight and dinner - She likes the right atmosphere with no interruptions or distractions – It’s just the way God designed her.  When the husband understands that the wife resents it when he ignores her all day and then gives her his undivided attention at night – This does not sit well with her - She likes to be courted in the front yard - on the front porch – In the living room – Dining Room – Bedroom – Bathroom – Kitchen – Back Yard and even in the garage. Courtship is a Lifetime Opportunity – Real Courtship Actually Begins After the Marriage.

the romance blog - pastor danny